Divine Connection

What if your current addiction is actually your individual path toward divine connection?

What if everything that looks wrong really is right? What if you gave into every artistic inclination? Not because you CAN dance or draw or cook or play the piano or practice Tai Chi, but because you can’t and it calls you anyhow.

What if money has as much meaning to your soul as monopoly money does to your ego? What if you set your ladder against the corporate wall when you were meant to climb out of the Grand Canyon? What if the thing everybody told you not to do is the one thing YOU should do? What if the recommendation everyone says is an absolute must will absolutely bust your bubble and burn your outlook on life? What if you get to make up YOUR OWN RULES? What if FREE WILL really is FREE WILL?

What if you wake up tomorrow and see EVERYTHING differently? What if you write about what comes to you without edit? What if D-O-G and G-O-D have more in common than three letters? What if they’re the same? And, imagine if YOU ACTUALLY LET GOD WORK THROUGH YOU?

You let GOD work through your hands, actual physical labor with purpose? Through your heart, which is reflected through your eyes every single day to every single soul you meet? What if you have been CHOSEN? No, not like you’re FN Jesus Christ, but like God, this loving being, wanted everything that happened to you to happen exactly as it has? What if everything that has happened is truly part of a GRAND plan? What if you actually own a destiny, not just a plan or even a calling, but what if everything you do matters? What if nothing does?

What if your harshest heartache will one day be the thing you look back on like your high school broken heart—with compassion and understanding rather than overwhelm? What if the people you’re meant to help aren’t over there? What if the one you’re judging is the one you could be influencing? Not for their sake, but for yours.

What if ideas others think silly light you up? What if going the wrong way somehow makes everything right? What if YOU REALLY hear dead people, it’s just that their spirits speak a slightly different language?

What if you like being happy so you keep doing it?

Work as Hard on Yourself as You Do Your Job, Marriage, Home or Hobby

I’m dismayed by women who rise to the top of the corporate ladder, but refuse to honor their own tears. What’s the point in being a woman who can land a man, purchase a home, and gather a gang of girlfriends, if you feel lonely looking in the mirror? As long as you’re alive, you’ll have a relationship with yourself. Why not work as hard on yourself as you do your job, marriage, home, or hobby?

Those could be temporary. Witness the woman who loses her job, husband or health. Years later, she’s revived and fully alive because when she lost her balance she found her center.

Don’t wait for loss to break you and make you decide you’re worth the investment. Choose yourself now.

We force ourselves to feel what we believe we should and do what we think we must. Give yourself a break! Take time for you. Ask, “What am I feeling?” and then honor, rather than deny, dismiss, or justify. What do you need, now? Have your values changed? What unfulfilling relationships or time-consuming activities could you let go of to spend more time with the one ever-present in your world? You matter. Out-of-balance people become a burden.

You want to be a blessing? Sanctify yourself. We work on relationships with men and family. We work on careers, homes and gardens. Yet, we expect ourselves to just arrive? Growing takes work, energy and time. It’s the best investment you can make. Working on yourself means finding your needs and desires, and recognizing your own evolution. It’s knowing, honoring and nurturing the person you are today. What themes come up short around you? If there’s a hole in your soul, nothing outside can fill it.

You can fool yourself and work on everything else, but don’t you know better? Don’t you deserve better?

What do you really need and want? Quiet, meditation, prayer, yoga, music, therapy, art, dancing, poetry, wild sex, bike rides, trips to the beach? Do you need to quit your job or leave your relationship to live congruent with your soul? Or do you need to step it up in some area of life? Don’t just be a better mother, wife, sister, or friend. Be a better YOU. Think about yourself. Just for five minutes.

Ah, come on! You’d give a friend five minutes without hesitation. Or your child or mate or boss. What about you? Be worthy in your own eyes. What lights you up? Work as hard on yourself as you do anything else and your world will expand. But, hey, if that’s too much, just start with five minutes.