“Each of us has a unique part to play in the healing of the world.” ~ Marianne Williamson
Women are taught to be kind. I was taught to be nonjudgmental.
That’s hard. Judgments pop like synapses in my brain. I don’t discriminate and I’m likely hardest on myself.
Still, we’re implored to “Smile!” as if it’s our badge to walk free in society.
Otherwise, we’re called out as bitches, even angry bitches.
Nevertheless, we persist as individual women who often smile instinctively, sometimes don’t mind if you wink at me, but get damn tired of being treated as objects or told we shouldn’t feel as we do.
In the 1970’s Women’s Movement, women stopped smiling, and wearing bras. They traded for emotional armor, determined to succeed in a man’s world.
In the 80’s, as I embarked on my career, my mom and I might as well have worn matching suits and carried matching briefcases.
We cheered in 1992 when Hillary Clinton said, “I suppose I could’ve stayed home and baked cookies and had teas, but what I decided to do was to fulfill my profession which I entered before my husband was in public life.”
My mom and I bantered feminist sayings like tetherballs:
A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle. (popularized by Gloria Steinem)
Anything a man can do a woman can do… better.
Don’t send a boy to do a man’s job; Send a woman.
That wave of feminism paved the way for my professional sales career working among men, proving myself.
Women established our ability to work in a man’s world. But, when you borrow someone else’s pants, even if they’re the right size, they still don’t quite fit.
The way men built foundations, set boundaries (which they may freely bulldoze), and invited us begrudgingly—and sometimes eagerly—serves them and their agenda, even if only through subconscious bias.
We made it in a man’s world. Sure, there’s a glass ceiling and sexual harassment is rampant, but as Donald Trump inferred, harassment in the military is to be expected. His son Trump Jr. clarified that women who can’t handle harassment in the workplace should teach kindergarten.
Just as women made comfortable, although not equal, strides in careers and corporations, the guys we believed to be rare and living under rocks revealed themselves in the #MeToo chapter of the Women’s Movement.
“Yeah, I grabbed her by the pus…” Yeah, those guys. The bratty boys with names like Brett who threaten not to let us in the club again.
Guess what? This is a new movement of women.
We’re moving with love, yoga, hot tea, and Kundalini. We’re meeting under full moons and awakening. We’re creating a new world for women, children, and men.
We’re focusing on inclusion, understanding, showing up, and speaking truth—direct, soft, and strong, like a mother who’s had creation born through her.
We wanted in the boys’ clubhouse when we were girls. Then, we grew up and found out what’s in there. It stinks!
We’re building more than clubhouses. Women are creating families, businesses, and communities. We’re shaping societies.
Like the alt-right silently, and sometimes violently, infiltrated our institutions, women are waging a revolution. A revolution of love.
We’re burning sage and taking to the page. We’re purging toxins and cleansing chakras. We speak feminine languages. The witches are back.
We chant with our sisters and our ancestors, who stand with us as we create the new ways—devoid of glass ceilings and golden handcuffs.
Human progress. There’s no going back. Only sitting it out or showing up.
Women are showing up united, ignited, empowered, and determined. We’re here for the future of our children, country, and society.
We might even do a little house cleaning!