“Someone who has more information than we do about the nature of reality is worthy of respect.” ~ Chogyam Trungpa, Smile at Fear
My yoga teacher started class with the intention: “Let it be easy.”
She wasn’t just talking about yoga. She was talking about life.
Let it be easy. Let it be. Easy.
But, “Life is hard.” And, “No one said it would be easy.”
Sometimes we take the grains of truth and tattoo them on our minds like chosen mantras.
My stepmom once said, “We have to learn everything the hard way.” But, do we?
Could we stop making everything hard and let it be easy?
Sometimes, life is hard.
But, Addie, the yoga teacher I so admire, suggested I could let it be easy.
As if I could stop trying so damn hard.
Wow. What if I’ve been the resistance in my life? That’s not easy to admit.
I’ve taken challenges and made them struggles. I’ve made miscommunications reasons for refusal. I’ve forced financial situations into avalanches. I’ve owned life’s difficulties.
Could we really just let it be easy? It sounds so easy it seems absurd.
“Easy for you to say.”
Does everything have to be difficult to be worthy?
I used to live by the words:” “What doesn’t destroy me makes me strong.” But, at a certain point I was attracting circumstances to prove my strength. I stopped doing that (intentionally).
The Question Book asks: If you could have a consistently good life or one filled with the highest highs and the lowest lows, which would you choose?
I’m certain I chose the peaks and valleys before I arrived in this world.
Even so, can I let it be easy? The idea attracts me like a handsome man I’m not sure I can have.
Easy sounds sweet and seductive, so much so my instinct is to dismiss.
However, when I took the easy intention to my yoga mat, I had one of my best practices. I was strong, focused and flexible—with ease.
Yoga is the master teacher. What we learn on the mat follows us into life.
Come on, ease!
What if I can let it be easy…
To regain my health, energy and vitality? I could stop searching for answers and diagnosis and allow my body to rebalance itself.
What if I let my writing be easy? Writing is easy for me. That doesn’t mean it’s not work.
But, I can return to flow, where my soul resides and my desire to be of benefit unfolds.
What if I let my relationships be easy? I could stop putting them under the microscope, judging and determining their worth. I could be present, with ease.
Could I let building a blog, attracting an audience, landing a publisher and contract be easy? Why not?! I’ve tried to make it hard. I’ve tried to suffer for my art. Enough so that I’m willing to try a new way.
Could I let my grief be easy? A year ago this would’ve been larger than leaping the Grand Canyon. But today, I let my tears fall easy, my memories land lightly and the signs arrive as they will.
It’s better than trying to make myself get over it and move on or demand the kind of communication that only arrives divinely.
The more I think about it—letting life be easy is about letting the divine unfold—rather than ordering and dismissing miracles.
I doubt the flowers sprouting through sidewalks or cardinals finding my feeders fought their way there. Isn’t nature easy?
Maybe it’s only human nature that makes life hard. Why do we do that?
It’s a protection mechanism. Like if we accept or prepare for how hard life is, it will be less so. Unfortunately, the mechanism is faulty.
Listen, I don’t believe in positive denial. I’m a stickler for truth—although a friend recently pointed out I’m not perfect in this area either. That’s true.
I’m not seeking perfection and I refuse to affirm, “I’m happy! I’m happy! I’m happy!” or even, “It’s easy.”
However, we don’t have to make things hard or assume they are.
We can just let life be as easy as it is. We can allow for the ease.
Sometimes we take grains of truth and tattoo them on our minds like chosen mantras.
My new mantra: I let it be easy.
4 thoughts on “How We Can Allow Life to be Easy #bloglikecrazy”
Very interesting and incredibly helpful post.
Thanks for sharing.
Thank you for visiting, Bill. I’m glad you found it helpful. Thanks for taking the time to comment. So appreciated!
OK – I seem to have learned most things the hard way, especially parenting, and at the same time I’ve known some wonderful, smart, super productive people for whom life always seemed easy. And they were’t workaholics. I went to work for one of them as he formed a new group with a new assignment. At our first meeting as he laid out all we were going to do, which seemed exciting and overwhelming, he concluded with and we’re going to have lots of fun doing it. WE DID and we completed most of the tasks. But it wasn’t easy for most of us. Now at 82 some things are easy but some are still hard – I don’t press nearly as hard however but I feel I don’t get nearly as much done — but I say it’s OK – it goes with being retired and aging!
I do believe it can be easy and I really hope YOU FIND YOUR EASY WAYS.
Much love, Dad
PS – Guess I’m a little late with this comment but I just reread it your piece and really like it. GOT THE FIRST SHOT OF THE MODERNA VACCINE THIS MORNiNG & it’s really lifting my spirits.
Ah, what a treat to see my father has been reading behind the scenes. And a response! Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this hard, easy, wonderful, challenging life. Yes, some people seem to ride easy smoother, don’t they? By the way, Lundy-late is on time to me. I’m glad you’re reading my work and glad you’re in my life. I’m thrilled you got the vaccine. I love you, Dad