Kevin Fire! Lentz died March 4, 2016. He was my friend. My boyfriend. My beloved. He was a badass and together we were crazy, sexy, cool.
Call. And call again. Take the calls—even when you’re driving to dinner with your girlfriend and looking for a parking space. Take the call, especially if it’s your dad. Not because he’s 85, because he’s your dad.
Connect with people. Laugh. Let your funny be infectious.
Don’t be a hater. Speak your mind.
Apologize when you screw up. And mean it. Move on.
Own your anger. Be forthright, but be gracious.
Love women. Really love them. And music. Listen to music-LOUD! Especially the 80s. Hard rock. KISS.
But, take Etta James and the candles. Yeah, bring that old boom box to the beach. Play the game Washers.
Read. The Bible when you feel nudged. Take pleasure in reading.
Find your favorite author. Kevin’s was Lee Child, but he also read Mark Twain, JR Moehringer, and Alice Lundy.
Give people nicknames. ICE! ICE! ICE! Let it be your way of honoring them.
Pray. Out loud. In the morning. While drinking coffee and watching birds with your girlfriend.
Say, “I LOVE THAT!” often. Say, “I love you.” Write it. Bring back the art of hand-written letters.
Send kids’ Valentine’s Day cards with love to friends and family every year.
Enjoy good food. Make memories of meals, like cooking Chilean seabass at home or taking your lady to the high-class, like-you’re-in-Italy Italian Tony’s, where you used to go with your mom.
Also go to dive bars, like Villa Nova.
Bring home Taco Bell sauce packets that say, “Marry Me” and “Team Fire!” Present them like a bouquet of flowers.
Seek love. Be romantic. Be real. Dance.
Follow your passions and applaud others.
Take care of your business, but don’t be so serious. Make work fun. When it’s not, refocus. Readjust. Decide what you want and go for it.
Change. If you want to. Become better.
Be at peace with yourself. Take care of yourself. LOVE YOURSELF. And especially, BE YOURSELF. Kevin was totally himself, not imitating a soul.
Be emotionally courageous. Say: This is how I am. I have a temper and I can be selfish, but I’m the man for you.
Yeah, be a man—in the best sense of the word.
Support your team and Diva’s team and your people.
Show up. Be on time. And have some style!
LIVE your life. If it ever comes to your door, kick cancer’s ass!
Speak a unique language with your brothers—one your girlfriend couldn’t understand if she wanted to.
Make your cousin a brother and make the word brother mean something.
Give friends and family the value they deserve.
GO ALL IN. Whatever you’re doing: sex, drugs, rock-n-roll, sales, wooing a woman, loving your mom, hanging with friends, frying fish, developing relationships, telling a truth, listening… damn, Kevin could listen.
He could talk, but he could really listen.
Open doors. Pull out chairs. Hug. Hold your partner tight throughout the entire night.
Kiss too hard and love like this is your last chance and you want to get it right.
Buy little gifts. Don’t expect so much from others. Give because it makes you feel good.
Tell stories. And make them entertaining!
Hang with your boys. Be wild when you’re young, but never grow old.
Get out of the house. Travel, but spend time hanging at home, just chillin’.
Be like a kid, but be a man. Face life head on.
Be like Kevin, but you can’t. There was only one.
So, be like you. Be the wild, weird, wonderful you.