My sister is the best manifestor I know. She doesn’t waiver.
When her husband died, Jayne—in the throes of wretched grief—wrote how she’d like her life to be, specifically.
She wrote about the kind of job she wanted: the company, culture, income, minimal travel, and optimum opportunity to affect people. It’s the job she now has.
She wrote about the kind of place she wanted to live, long before I came on the scene.
It’s where we live now: three bedrooms, two bathrooms, basement with storage space, safe, walking distance to restaurants and nature, awesome landlord… Some things have changed and maybe we’ll move on, but Jayne manifested more than just a place to live. It’s home.
That’s an almost impossible task when home for 35 years was with her husband. So, after losing him, recreating that kind of space meant a major mind leap.
What’s more, she wrote about the kind of relationship and man she wanted.
A couple of guys flitted in and out, revealing their inability to step into the kind of relationship Jayne sought. She easily released them, rather than trying to make something work that wasn’t meant to be, as so many people do, especially women, and even more so for vulnerable widows. Not my sister.
One guy she really liked early on forgot to mention he had a girlfriend, because he was so busy telling Jayne how fabulous she was. One day, while she was at work, his girlfriend showed up at our door, making me the bearer of the bad news. Jayne laughed it off.
After your husband/life partner/best friend/protector/father of your children dies, cheating boyfriends get swiped away like flies.
Even after Jayne got deep enough to let a relationship develop with her current man, she never stopped working to create the kind of communication that makes a long-term love worth the heart and time investment. She speaks her mind, gets angry, asks questions, listens, and brings him coffee in the morning.
That’s amazing manifestation and continuous development.
At work, my sister insisted she wanted to be able to wear jeans every day, as she had in her previous job. She kept saying it over and over.
Guess who left this morning, as she now does every morning, wearing jeans? It took years, but the policy got changed!
Here’s the way many of us try to manifest. Well, at least the way I’ve been known to finagle. Let’s say I wanted to wear jeans, but the policy was business casual.
I’d say, “I wish we could wear jeans,” but then I’d try to make myself happy with business casual and feel good wearing certain outfits that I wouldn’t wear if I wore jeans. I’d even try to rationalize myself into feeling as if I was for the policy I truly didn’t prefer, while whining about it over drinks with friends every few months.
So, a key is to know and stand by what you truly want and not try to convince yourself to feel differently because you’re afraid you can’t have that which you desire.
Of course, I’m not saying Jayne magically gets everything she wants, but her magnetic mind is staggering.
Another example: she wanted more vacation time. When she was hired, she’d been told that wasn’t possible. It was the one thing on her ideal job list she didn’t get.
However, not long ago, I received a text: “Guess what?!”
In the interim, she repeatedly said, “I make great money, but the thing I’d really like is more vacation. I don’t mind working. I just like playing, too. I just don’t have enough vacation time.”
Then, after years of working for the company who couldn’t give her that, they did. Jayne received another week of vacation.
Just. Like. That.
It’s simple, but I’m more of a complicate the hell out of it and reevaluate 42 times kind of manifestor.
I need to get out of my own way and keep it simple.
For example, I’m a writer, but not yet as successful or as solvent as I intend to be. My sister supports and encourages my writing career.
When I first moved in with her, I’d freak out every few months, feeling guilty for not bringing in more money. I’d tell Jayne I could go back to teaching or get another job. She’d say, “No, this is what we’re doing. You’re pursuing your dream.”
I did. I have. I am. I’ll never give up.
However, I’ve been known to get sidetracked, as in, do you think I should teach yoga?
Also, I’ve wanted my health, but enjoyed beer and pizza.
Conflicting desires sometimes prioritize through pain. On my path to better health, my body no longer tolerates pizza. Now, I choose my health over cheap thrills.
There are times we need to renegotiate with the Universe and things don’t always happen the way we want, but often it’s because we’re unclear and keep changing our minds.
Like a couple of my single girlfriends. They’ll admit and recommit to wanting a man and a relationship. They’ll go speed dating and on dating sites and on some dates.
Then, when we get together the question of dating or meeting someone special comes up. Inevitably, these gals will go on about how happy they feel in their lives and therefore, they don’t really need, or even necessarily want a man.
These are successful women with fabulous friends, family, and a full life. They’re happy.
And yet, each one of them, like me, carries a deep desire to connect with a special someone in the way that a relationship with a mate offers.
We’d love to manifest love for ourselves, but we waiver. We tell ourselves we don’t want it because we’re already happy, as if fulfillment in other areas of our lives negates our desire for intimacy with a partner.
We say dating is too much work and we’re busy and we don’t mind being alone—because we don’t.
It’s all fine, but should we settle for fine when our hearts crave fabulous?
Just because we have a delicious meal, it doesn’t mean we don’t want desert. It’s fine if we don’t, but let’s not lie to ourselves.
I love my life. I’m happy as it is, right now, and I’m up for manifesting more and better, like a book contract and maybe even a fresh new man.
I’m following in my sister’s footsteps for manifesting and creating a life I love.
How about you? Are you clear in what you want or do you tend to waiver?
If you want to move into the direction of your desires, here are the six steps the best manifestor I know follows:
1. Know what you want.
2. Say what you want.
3. Believe you can have it.
4. Practice patience.
5. Do your work while you wait.
6. Allow what you want to come to you.
Or, the shorter version:
1. Know what you want.
2. Don’t waiver.
So, I’m off to manifest my writing success—as in a savvy agent and a life-changing book contract—along with a crazy, sexy, kundalini man. Because I believe I can.
How about you? What are you up for manifesting in your lovely life?
3 thoughts on “6 Steps to Manifesting & How I was Doing it all Wrong.”
I needed to hear about Jayne today. I poured my heart into writing a memoir about my experience with an abusive relationship and my recovery. As a writer, you might understand the deflation I felt after a string of rejection letters. Not to be deterred, I invested in self publishing. Now, I’m in the uncomfortable situation of marketing the book myself, and I’m not very good at it.
To answer your question . . . What I want is to offer hope to those trapped in an abusive relationship. Recovering the printing cost through sale of my book would be a nice way to do it. If anyone reading this knows of someone trapped in abuse, send them to my blog at powerfulbeautifulwise.com.
Keep on manifesting, Alice. I enjoy your writing voice!
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You are powerful. You are beautiful. You are wise. You are serving the world through your words. It’s not an easy path, but may yours be made smoother by your good intentions. Manifest a sweet life. You deserve it. Sending you good ju-ju.
Thanks for your kindness!